Couples Therapy
Rekindle your connection and nurture a stronger bond with couples therapy today.
Have You Been Feeling Disconnected From Your Partner Lately?
Do the two of you continually have the same arguments over and over with no resolution? Is your relationship characterized by:
Lack of intimacy and feelings of loneliness?
A broken sense of trust and fear of betrayal?
Low frustration tolerance and a short fuse around each other?
Maybe you and your partner once had a seemingly-unbreakable bond, but as time has gone on, the spark has faded. Perhaps a major life transition like moving, having a baby, or tying the knot has changed your relationship in ways you didn’t anticipate. Maybe the two of you find yourselves clashing over finances, children, and differences in values. You might feel emotionally unsupported, like your partner just doesn’t see, hear, or understand you for who you are. As a result, perhaps you’re thinking of seeing a couples therapist.
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Relationship Stress Can Be All-Consuming, Impacting Every Area Of Your Life
Whether your challenges stem from infidelity, poor communication, or disagreements about what you want in life, ongoing relationship strain can contribute to increased stress and overwhelm. You and your partner might feel like you’re walking on eggshells around each other. Throughout the day, perhaps you constantly look for ways to distract yourselves from your relationship problems. Yet the more you try to brush aside those problems, the worse they grow.
On the other hand, maybe there’s minimal conflict in your marriage or relationship, but your connection has still dimmed. You and your significant other may have grown so busy with other demands that your relationship has fallen on the backburner. You might feel like you’re just roommates now instead of two people madly in love.
Regardless of where your relationship stress comes from, it’s probably started to impact other areas of your life and affect your overall happiness. If this is the case, it may be time for you and your significant other to seek professional support. As someone who specializes in working with couples at various stages of their journeys, I’m confident that my approach to counseling can help you solve communication issues, deepen your intimacy, and build a more emotionally connected relationship.
All Relationships Go Through Challenging Seasons
Conflict is a normal, inevitable, and even healthy part of life as a couple. After all, we all bring our own baggage into relationships, as well as our own values, needs, and goals. Some of us may have grown up in a household that shied away from confrontation; others may have grown up in a home where confrontation was normal and encouraged. When we enter into a committed partnership with someone, it’s only natural that these different ways of being will clash.
The key, then, is to try and work through conflict in a way that supports the growth of your relationship rather than undermines it. This is easier said than done. Most of the time, we try to resolve conflict peacefully only for it to escalate and lead to more blaming and defensiveness. To get to the bottom of our hangups, we have to dig deep into the unconscious patterns that are controlling how we respond to each other.
Our Busy Modern World Makes It Hard To Cultivate Healthy Relationships
Many of us live and work in fast-paced environments and have to juggle high-stress jobs on top of busy social lives. Making time for our relationships isn’t easy. It’s something we have to be intentional about, just as we have to be intentional about taking care of our homes, our cars, and our health.
All too often, we neglect our relationships until they have fallen into disrepair. We turn to other distractions, such as technology, substance use, or even infidelity, instead of leaning into our relationship during times of need.
Yet the truth is that your relationship can be your biggest ally if you allow it to be. Instead of becoming just another stressor in your life, your relationship can be the support that holds you up as you navigate stress in the outside world.
Therapy Can Help Couples Find Their Way Back To Each Other
As an experienced couples therapist, I am passionate about helping partners build emotionally connected relationships in which they feel safe, secure, and aligned with their goals and values. I work with couples at all stages of their journeys, including those in long-term relationships, those who are engaged and looking for premarital counseling, and those who are already married but still in need of deeper support. I enjoy providing therapy for LGBTQIA+ couples and anyone else whose relationship doesn’t fit a traditional mold.
My ultimate goal is to help you and your significant other build trust, increase intimacy, and strengthen your connection for the long term. I want you to find your way back to each other and fall in love again. Along the way, I will guide and support you with as much warmth, compassion, humor, and kindness as possible.
What To Expect In Couples Therapy Sessions
In the beginning, I will help you and your partner explore patterns of conflict in your relationship as well as each person’s background and communication style. Together, we’ll look at how and why problematic cycles are not resolving, allowing you to understand the sources of your relationship disconnection and gain clarity on your stuck points.
To help couples do this, I use an approach called Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). Instead of teaching you to try and win or prove yourself right, EFT focuses on connecting with your partner and communicating from your own emotions rather than pointing fingers. EFT can help you and your partner:
Break problematic communication and behavior patterns
Learn to emotionally attune to one another and support each other’s needs
Develop emotional regulation skills to manage anxiety and anger
Heal from infidelity and mistrust by turning toward each other
Assess shared and individual goals as well as needs and values
As we work on building up various areas of your relationship, I will also help you and your significant other increase your compassion for yourselves and each other. Relationships are hard work, so it’s important to be kind to yourself and recognize that you’re both doing the best you can. When you understand this, it’s easier to feel safer and more supported in your relationship.
You May Have Some Questions About Marriage And Couples Counseling…
What if talking about our issues is uncomfortable and doesn’t help?
This is a valid concern. Sometimes couples therapy can be uncomfortable, painful, or hard. However, it can also be transformative. I am trained and experienced in helping couples talk through their issues peacefully and constructively, and EFT provides a framework for getting to the root of your challenges instead of wasting time on surface issues. We will always go at a pace that’s right for you, and I will be here to support you if you ever feel uncomfortable discussing your relationship issues.
I/We tried couples therapy before and it didn’t work. How will this be different?
I will work hard to ensure that you feel seen, heard, and understood. I will take care to understand your previous experiences and what has or hasn’t worked so that we can work collaboratively to set goals and create meaningful change. Couples therapy will be tailored to your unique needs and adaptive and flexible to anything that comes up during our work together.
What if you’re biased toward my me or my partner?
As a couples counselor, my job is to provide both partners with a safe, supportive space to express themselves. I’m on the same team as your relationship, which means that I am committed to helping both of you do the work of healing your relationship. Just as it takes two to tango, it takes two to make things right. If you have any concerns about the therapeutic process, this is an open forum—my role is to listen to you and help you feel supported unconditionally as we work together.
Your Relationship Can Be one of Your
Biggest Supports
With the right guidance and support, you can make your relationship a safe haven of love and acceptance and a stronghold in times of distress. To learn more about how therapy can breathe new life into your marriage or partnership, you can use my contact page to schedule a free phone consultation.
Other SERVICES
In addition to couples therapy, as a New York City therapist, I offer mental health services for teens and adults including therapy for depression, therapy for anxiety, and PTSD therapy, as well as therapy for those who want to improve their relationships and disordered eating treatment, among other speciality areas. I specialize in therapy for women who want to find fulfillment, build self-worth, and become the best version of themselves. I provide online therapy to residents of New York, Connecticut, and Washington D.C.
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